Perfect Bride

by admin on January 14, 2013

I’d love to nominate my eldest cousin for the ‘perfect bride’ category on the site.

From the beginning, it was going to be a good wedding. After all, what can one say about getting a wedding invitation….with a personal note from the couple to each and every guest? It definitely made everyone invited want to attend the ceremony!

My cousin has always been the diplomat in the family, but I am amazed at how she was able to balance out the demands of the guest list. We all knew she wanted a very quiet, intimate wedding, but since her husband comes from a political family, there were really some people outside of family and close friends who had to be invited to the wedding. She was very composed and candid about it all, negotiating very well with my uncle (her dad), and her in-laws about the guest list.

She was not fussy about what her five maids-of-honor would wear: as long as they followed the color scheme (a nice mint-green) and used the same dark brown details/accents, the ladies could pick whatever style suited them. The result was five very glamorous and beautiful maids of honor. She was not picky at all with the groomsmen’s styles either. She also had very cute, lovely dresses designed for the two flower girls (her groom’s two little nieces). Both girls (a nine year old and a five year old) loved them! My cousin did insist on the wedding sponsors/godparents having the same sort of dress, but she did not get overly upset when one of my aunts (who was just flying in only for the wedding as she is a busy dentist), had trouble fitting in her gown. She let my aunt wear a nice gown in the color scheme of the day anyway.

Since the wedding was out of town, my cousin arranged and/or suggested accommodations for all the guests who needed it. It was a foggy and rainy morning on the day of the ceremony, but no one ever mentions my cousin snapping or being rude to anybody. Despite the weather, everyone was so happy to turn up anyway. The ceremony was simple and tasteful, with the bride and groom writing their own vows in their respective styles of verse.

Instead of forcing everyone to wait in line and stay hungry before the actual reception began, my cousin made sure to arrange for snacks and drinks: first outside the church just before we showered the couple with rose petals, and then later at the reception where each guest was given some refreshments to tide everyone over before the buffet was served. The reception was exquisite from the decor right down to the wedding cake (actually a cupcake tower with Barbie and Optimus Prime as cake-toppers).

Since there were many guests who had to be back in town right away, but there were also a lot of young guests who wanted to continue partying and celebrating, the bride and groom had the foresight to arrange for an ‘after party’ at a nice spa hotel. This was mainly so that the older people in the group (grandparents, parents, etc.) could still get rest wherever they wanted, and so other guests wouldn’t be pressured in staying for festivities since it was a busy weekend for everyone. It was very important for the bride that as many of her cousins would be at the party, so she took the extra step of arranging and paying for accommodations for me and my two siblings instead of pressuring our parents to shell out more money or making us drive all the way back to town late at night!

The day after the wedding, the couple made sure to mingle with each other’s family members and guests instead of keeping to themselves all day. They generously acknowledged and thanked the hotel proprietor for his being very solicitous and patient with everyone’s late night partying antics.

All thank you notes for this wedding were personalized and given promptly to each guest. My cousin’s husband is a cool and intelligent man, but everyone says that he’s got one wonderful catch in his lovely, sophisticated bride.

Thanks for letting me share this story! 0112=13

{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

Kovi January 14, 2013 at 12:15 pm

While it’s a fantastic story over all, that Barbie/Optimus cake toppers, well…take the cake 😉


sv January 15, 2013 at 7:19 am

I love the barbie/optimus prime cake toppers! Wish I had thought of it myself. She sounds lovely 🙂


Hanna January 15, 2013 at 10:23 am

I think it’s a great story too, but was just wondering about why the wedding sponsors/godparents had to have certain attire and no one else did? Just curious….


JD January 15, 2013 at 12:42 pm

Me, too, Hanna. What is a wedding sponsor, anyway? I know what godparents are, but I’ve never heard of them being asked to dress as part of the wedding party unless they were attendants. I don’t understand that part.


Margaret January 15, 2013 at 1:45 pm

“My cousin did insist on the wedding sponsors/godparents having the same sort of dress, but she did not get overly upset when one of my aunts (who was just flying in only for the wedding as she is a busy dentist), had trouble fitting in her gown. She let my aunt wear a nice gown in the color scheme of the day anyway.”

Godparents having a dress code an color scheme? Overly controlling. And “did not get OVERLY” upset? So she did get upset?

Bridesmaids, fine. But trust those you love to dress appropriately. It’s not a Broadway chorus line.


Jen a. January 16, 2013 at 6:16 am

I love when brides have a colour scheme but not a design picked out for bridesmaid dresses. There are so many body types out there, and it can be really difficult to find a dress that suits everyone. I think it always looks sharp in pictures – it shows that the bride realizes her bridesmaids are individuals….


Snarkastic January 16, 2013 at 2:54 pm

I guess I’ve been fortunate enough to go to well planned/average weddings, so I did not find anything this bride did extraordinary. I think she was just a normal/good person. We read so many terrible stories and watch so many shows featuring female terrors, that I think people are shocked when a person behaves as one is “supposed” to behave.

I think if there had been extenuating circumstances, like nightmarish vendors, wicked family members, etc. then I would certainly nominate this bride for the “Perfect Bride” category. Otherwise, I think she is simply a pleasant woman enjoying the nice day she and her future husband have planned. Lucky lady.


Stacey Frith-Smith January 16, 2013 at 3:39 pm

I’m kind of with the other commentators with respect to coordinated dresses for the wedding sponsors. A sponsor assists with the cost of an event and a wedding sponsor might contribute flowers, music, food, favors, transportation or other services. If memory serves me correctly, they are usually mentioned in the event program or otherwise recognized for their generosity. Requiring them to coordinate their apparel is more extreme than some people would be comfortable with (but then many are uncomfortable with the notion of an event “sponsor” as a norm anyway). Your cousin sounds very thoughtful in her attentions to her guests, OP, which is indeed a lovely thing.


Shoegal January 17, 2013 at 9:23 am

The bride sounded like a lovely person overall. I too didn’t find a lot of it “extraoridinary.”

Having snacks before the buffet was served – that’s called a cocktail hour – where food and beverages are served before dinner. The majority of weddings I’ve been too have had one. I believe it is a typcial type of thing now

After party – a lot of weddings have those as well – nice thing to do if you think the party will last and if you have the money. A lot of weddings today also have a “brunch” the day following the wedding so that the bride and groom can mingle with family members in a more casual atmosphere. So this just seemed like a nice typical wedding.


Dodger January 17, 2013 at 5:11 pm

Gotta add the kudos for the Barbie+Optimus Prime caketoppers. Newlyweds, roll out!


Smiling Charmer January 19, 2013 at 4:30 pm

Kudos for the personal notes with the invitations.
Hummm, “letting” an aunt wear a dress sounds very Bridezilla to me…..
Everything else is an account of a very nice wedding.


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