The Missing Liquor

by admin on July 26, 2012

We recently had a family reunion which brought about the usual reminiscing. This story is from about 20 years ago and we still can’t get over it.
When my father’s cousin got married we were invited to large co-ed wedding shower for the couple and were asked in addition to gifts to please bring a bottle of liquor for the shower and leave it “to stock the bar at the reception.”
Flash forward several months to the reception which was COMPLETELY DRY! Asking your friends and loved ones to chip in for your wedding costs is one thing but this was a whole new level of crass.   0724-12
It just goes to show that if you think you can get away with some crass, tacky thing, your relatives will remember for decades as the story becomes evil family folklore. 
And it’s bad but still not quite as bad as one of my favorite Ehell stories where the co-workers were invited to an  employee shower and were requested by the MOH to bring a dish to share that evening but also a bottle of champagne.   It wasn’t until after the food was eaten and the gifts all opened that the MOH, on behalf of the bride,  thanked the guests for coming, informed them all that none of them would be attending the wedding but thanked them for their contribution of champagne to be used at a reception none of them were invited.   That story is somewhere in the old archives..someone care to find it?

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Cherry July 26, 2012 at 8:13 am

Wait, I’m slightly confused. When OP says that the wedding reception was “completely dry”, do they mean that there was no alcohol except for the bottles that the shower guests had brought with them, or do they mean that there was no alcohol at all, and those bottles had been for some other purpose entirely?


Katy July 26, 2012 at 4:42 pm

I’m taking by ‘completely dry’ as in there is no booze at all at the reception, including the bottles that were bought with the promise they’d be served. I’m not surprised they mysteriously vanished.


June July 26, 2012 at 9:59 am

I am horrified by both stories. Asking guests to provide food and/or liquor for a shower/reception they were invited to attend as guests and then a) the liquor is no where to be found at the reception and b) being told you are not invited to the wedding/reception but thanks for the champagne that eveyone else will get to enjoy?

I really would like to be able to see the thought processes of people who think this is acceptable. Asking family, friends, and coworkers to contribute to your wedding costs is tacky enough but these two stories…wow.


Just Laura July 26, 2012 at 1:46 pm

I’ve seen the thought process of these people. They feel they are entitled to it. It goes something like this:

“I don’t make enough to have Wedding of Dreams/My parents won’t give me enough money for Wedding of Dreams. But it’s my special day! I deserve Wedding of Dreams complete with Vera Wang Dress, orchids, museum venue and steak dinner. I’ll just have my guests bring the booze, since that’s who will be drinking most of it anyway. They won’t mind since they’re lucky to be a part of my Wedding of Dreams, and they’re getting a free dinner and dance anyway.”


woohoo! July 26, 2012 at 2:10 pm

Is it possible that no one brought liquor to the shower and thus the reason why the reception was dry?

Is it possible that the B or G had a change of heart about having liquor at the reception and that was why it was dry? (idk, maybe a relative just came out of rehab, someone in the family had an alcohol-related accident, etc.)


Daisy August 3, 2012 at 4:53 pm

It’s possible that someone had a change of heart about the reception, but it’s more likely that the B&G had already used the liquor for the rehearsal dinner, the groom’s stag, or the bride’s night on the town.


Lizza July 26, 2012 at 10:57 am

And I bet you and all the other guests thought twice about giving that couple gifts for a good while! I guess people don’t understand when they act in a shifty way to help themselves, they mess up their reputation and lose close friends and family.

As for that story you mentioned, Admin, oh my goodness! Talk about rude! If the champagne hadn’t been squirreled away somewhere, I think I would have taken my bottle back and fled!


Sarah Jane July 26, 2012 at 12:00 pm

Both of these stories baffle me! In the OP’s case, where the purpose of bringing the bottle of wine was clearly indicated, I’d have simply “forgotten” to bring one :). In the case of the co-worker, I guarantee that in my job, people would have asked around ahead of time about the purpose of bringing a bottle of champagne. I don’t think it would have gone over very well, and there would have been quite a low attendance at that shower.


Ann July 26, 2012 at 12:46 pm


I am beginning to realize that, with a couple of notable exceptions, I am surrounded by such lovely people.

I even know a bride-to-be who has cancelled her long weekend destination wedding, and will reschedule once they’ve planned something that they can afford and that won’t inconvenience their guests.


Cat July 26, 2012 at 12:57 pm

I would have no problem as I do not supply alcohol to anyone for any reason as I have never met a person whose personality I felt was improved by alcohol-either because they drank it or because I did.
I would take a bottle of sparkling cider. It’s in a wine-shaped bottle, has a delightful fresh taste, and no alcoholic content at all. It’s inexpensive and allows those who cannot or who choose not to drink alcohol to have something in their glasses.


Cupcake July 27, 2012 at 10:54 am

But wouldn’t you be annnoyed if, after you generously & thoughtfully brought that sparkling cider for the bride and groom to serve at the reception, it turned out that they were sneaky Gimme Pigs who just wanted to keep it all for themselves?


Cat July 27, 2012 at 11:45 am

No, it’s cheap and, if they are like that, who needs them as friends anyway? I would look upon it as my gift to the truly needy of the world. They need manners and friends who are willing to be victimized-now, that’s needy.
They would be welcome to the cider and they could toast my departure from their lives. There are seven billion people in the world. We can all be a little more discriminating as to whom we choose to have in our lives.


Katy July 26, 2012 at 4:45 pm

It never fails to shock me how rude people can be towards their co-workers. I generally try to keep my co-workers happy. That way if I need help in the future I won’t be surrounded by a bunch of people who I’ve really irked. I don’t expect others to do my work for me, but I have worked jobs where you have to find your own replacement if you want a specific day off, and had someone pulled this stunt I can promise they’d never be getting another favor.


TylerBelle July 26, 2012 at 5:52 pm

I have to wonder what reason was given as to why the liquor was missing from the reception, for surely there were some verbal inquiries as to its non-appearance. Though since several months passed between the collecting of it and the reception, certain theories come to mind.

Also with the story the admin mentions and what similarly took place in the last one about reception hierarchy, are both boggling how some behave as if it’s acceptable to show to people they apparently hold less value than others and especially doing so in-the-face. Wow.


Stacey Frith-Smith July 28, 2012 at 11:03 am

These stories point out the short sightedness of people who mistreat others. I have to wonder about the coworkers in Admin’s story in particular- how on earth does one excuse such rudeness? It baffles the mind. Bring a dish to the shower and, while you’re at it, pick up a bottle of champagne for the reception which you’ll never attend? Really? I’d be mightily tempted to take back both gift and champagne. If fleeced of their ill-gotten gains, perhaps fewer “gimme pigs” would have an incentive to squeal and root about for trinkets, and conduct themselves in a more mature fashion, if only to avoid becoming the object of ridicule. One is not required to submit peacefully to “theft by deception”, and this tactic appears to be not a rare outrage but the first resort of the greedy.


Enna August 2, 2012 at 1:28 pm

This is a bit odd! I think the couple getting married should have given the donors and explanation.


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