My question is in regards to invitation etiquette. While I’ve spent most of my life in the States, I haven’t been invited to many weddings, so I don’t really know wedding etiquette that well. Plus, my culture is different from the US, so that makes things more complicated.
I recently received two e-vites–one was a “Save the Date” evite, and another was a Bridal Shower e-vite. On the Save the Date evite, the couple said that a formal invitation was to follow, so I suppose they covered their bases there. The bridal shower evite is the only invitation that I’ll get, which I don’t particularly mind, but anyway.
My question is, is it appropriate to send evites for Save the Dates and Bridal Showers? I’m going to get married soon myself, and while I probably won’t have a Bridal Shower (never understood the concept of asking guests to bring two gifts–one for the shower, one for the wedding), I’m wondering about the Save the Dates. Is it rude to send electronic Save the Dates/Bridal Shower invitations? I know for an actual wedding invitation, that’d be extremely rude, but I couldn’t figure this one out.
Also, do I have to send a Save the Date? Can I just send out my wedding invitation earlier so that guests will have enough time to plan? 0401-14
I’m not a huge fan of the online event invitation sites since I strongly oppose the privacy policies. We actually have evite.com blocked at the server level in our house so I would not see any invitations sent to me. Also, electronic invitations have been known to be be filtered off into Spam in boxes and I’venown of people who never knew of a party because they never received the invitation or did not know to look in their Spam folder.
We are about to celebrate a wedding in our family and there were two shower-type events hosted by two different individuals. One was sent by evite.com and the other by regular mail. I know evites are becoming rather ubiquitous but the paper invitation sent through the mail was so pretty and definitely “keepable” for a scrapbook whereas the evite invitation was…..not particularly special or save worthy. A wedding is a once in a lifetime (we hope!) event and it just seems to me that such events should be celebrated with a high degree of personalization and specialness. Evites don’t meet that criteria,in my opinion.
But you should not be sending out invitations for a bridal shower for yourself since that would be greedy, rude and tacky. That decision rests with a friend or bridesmaid who may choose to host a shower for you.
“Save the date” notifications are a rather recent development in wedding planning and the only reason I see the need for them is for a destination wedding or to send to distant guests who must plan well in advance to travel. A simple post card in the mail can suffice since it can be stuck to a bulletin board or the refrigerator as a reminder.