I wanted to share a story that still makes me cringe when I think about it. And the faults were entirely mine.
Doing our own wedding planning, DH and I tried to make everything as efficient as possible. As part of it, we ended up addressing our invitation envelopes (no names on the invitations) together almost assembly line style over the course of several evenings. Then we sent them out. “Done,” we thought!
When I received an email from a friend that I had called her new husband by his last name, I was embarrassed, but she didn’t seem offended, and DH and I were able to find the humor in it.
Then, a few days later, I was thrilled to receive a card from a relative who I was not especially close in touch with and who I knew would not be able to attend due to distance, but who I wanted to make sure had an invitation. (Upon reflection, I have also realized with mortification that this could have been seen as “give-me” to people who I invited this way but I promise that I never expected gifts from them and meant it only as a kind gesture.)
I opened up the lovely card and was horrified to find an inserted note pointing out (politely) that I had included their spouse who had passed away several years ago on the envelope and that it would have been prudent of me to double-check my guest list. I felt genuinely horrible. I knew their spouse had passed away, but as we hadn’t kept in touch well, I had honestly forgotten in the midst of copying addresses from an old address book.
I immediately sat down and wrote an apology letter to them (owning up to my oversight) and thanking them for their gift.
Fast forward to my DH and I mailing out thank you cards. We each worked from an Excel sheet with names and gifts – splitting up the work. While I was finishing up the very last step – sealing the addressed envelopes, I came across an envelope with this relative’s name on it in my DH’s writing. “Odd,” I thought, “I already wrote them a thank you card.” I opened the envelope to find a thank you card I wrote for a friend with the same first name as this aforementioned relative.
I am so incredibly thankful that I caught my second mistake, otherwise this poor relative would have received a wedding invitation with their deceased spouse’s name on it as well as a duplicate thank you card for gifts they knew nothing about!!!!! 0117-14