I saw the following (names have been changed) attached to a bridal shower invitation my mother received. We both agreed it was tacky, and she wasn’t sure how she would proceed, but said I could run it past the eHellions for their opinion. I thought it took entitlement and solicitation to a whole new level.
The shower is being hosted by the bridesmaids, but the note was clearly from the bride:
“Throughout this exciting and happy time in our lives we would like to pass along our blessings to those less fortunate than ourselves. Both Groom and I are animal lovers and have had wonderful experiences adopting animals from local shelters. We are inviting guests to bring an item to donate to the local animal shelter in exchange for a raffle ticket for a prize basket. Each item will earn you one ticket. We would love nothing more than to donate a wonderful assortment of gifts to animals in need and we thank you in advance for your generosity.” 0322-14
Your mother has no obligation to facilitate or participate in a charity event disguised as a wedding shower. She does not need to bring a donation item if she clearly understands that by not doing so she is not eligible for the prize basket. And she does not need to explain to people why she may choose to not bring a donation item since how one spreads the personal charity is really no one else’s business. I have no problem declining to participate since I am confident of my own levels of charitable giving and where it goes and if someone wants to think badly of me because they don’t know all the facts or are peeved that I am not supporting their pet charity, all I can say is, “What an interesting assumption.”