I am burning in Ehell right now and my question is not so much “how do I get out?” but more “is it pointless to bother to try?”
My wedding was 3.5 years ago. We never sent out thank you cards. I have 101 excuses for this but that’s exactly what they are, excuses. We honestly did and still do appreciate the thoughtful gifts we received but we’re the procrastinator types and just never got to it. I would like to send them out. Would people be pleased to receive a thank you at this late date or is it better to just not send them at all? Mom says “why bother NOW” but truly, I always meant to do it.
Thanks for your advice. I absolutely deserve the vengeance I expect to receive for my poor choices to this date. 0919-13
My thoughts are that it cannot hurt to send out very belated thank you notes. Below is a submission to the site I received a day after yours and one can tell that there can be considerable barriers put up between people all due to a perception of ingratitude and not wanting to feel like you were used to increase someone else’s material assets.
My husband’s niece had a baby boy last year after 10 years of trying . We were overjoyed over the birth of her son and so happy for her and her husband. We sent her money, toys, books as well as a beautiful monogrammed silver cup to express our love. After a year neither my husband nor I have received so much as a phone call or acknowledgement of any kind. I imagine a thank you note is out of the question. I am aware from other family members that she did receive the gifts. I am unsure if I should say something or just let it go. I am so hurt and offended that I think our relationship isn’t. 0920-13
Yeah, people can really be hurt by what is perceived as a rejection of their expressions of love as expressed in the form of gifts.
I wouldn’t offer any excuses or defenses for why you are so late in sending a thank you other than to humorous grovel in abject contrition for being so late. Effusive spouting about the wonders of the gift and the exceptional generosity of the givers wouldn’t be a bad idea either.