A while back I attended the wedding of a lifelong friend- never a close friend, but just someone I had grown up with. Her bridesmaids were three friends from college (none of whom I had met before) and her older sister was the matron of honor. I had no expectations of being asked to be a part of her wedding and was honored to simply be invited as a guest.
On the day of the wedding (a summer evening wedding, with the ceremony at the church she and I grew up in and an outdoor reception to follow) I pulled out a favorite dress- black and tea length with just a touch of cream-colored embroidery on one side. I had purchased the dress in Europe the summer before and thought it looked classy and elegant and was the most summer-wedding appropriate thing I owned (and I did NOT have money for a new dress!).
The ceremony was lovely and the bride looked stunning. Afterwards, in the reception line she greeted me enthusiastically and introduced me to her new husband, and her parents and sister all told me how good it was to see me again. At the reception, however, several people approached me and asked, “Were you trying to match the bridesmaids?” in that sickly-sweet tone of voice that always holds underlying accusations.
It was only then that I realized the bridesmaids’ dresses were all black and ivory- they looked nothing like my dress, but the colors were pretty similar. Well, shoot, now I remembered that the bride had mentioned her colors at her shower that spring, but it had been months (she had to have an early shower because of her and her mother’s work schedules) and the thought hadn’t even crossed my mind as I selected my dress. Did these people think that I was trying to let the bride know I was mad at her for not asking me to be part of the wedding or that I was trying to take attention away from the wedding party?
I honestly don’t think the bride herself noticed or cared that I was wearing her wedding colors (and, as it was her and her groom’s day, that should be all that matters!!) but I can’t help but wonder if this was a wedding guest faux pas? I’ve heard of not wearing white or bright red to weddings, but is it so horrible to unintentionally wear the colors of the bridal party? 0813-13
My daughter’s wedding colors were orange and chocolate brown and I wore a cranberry color. We would have been flattered if guests had dressed in similarly festive Autumn colors. So, don’t sweat the petty people. It’s not worth wasting any further thought on the matter.