Yes, sad but true, the Text Message Invite is alive and well.
Late morning, right before I was about to head into work, I received a text message from an old friend. Admittedly, we are not as close as we were in childhood, but braving nearly ten years of summer camp together is something that can bond people for a lifetime. The message contained the following:
Incredibly random, but if ur free on [Wedding Date], wanna come to my wedding? No pressure, obvi, I kno it’s short notice. But [Other Camp Friend and Husband] are going as are various [Camp Name] people, if that helps.
I was shocked and dismayed that this usually thoughtful friend had displayed such little thought when inviting me to his wedding. I responded with the following:
Wow. Didn’t even know you were engaged. Congratulations! I appreciate the gesture, but have to decline since I would feel awkward attending as I was a last minute addition.
Thanks! If it’s too awkward for u, I understand. However, u were on the list from the beginning, just had to see how many relatives were showing up. So, if you change ur mind, lemme know. And if not, no worries.
And I said:
Thanks, [Camp Friend].
So, he closes with:
Think about it, at least, please. I’ll contact u again at the end of the week.
If he really wanted me there, couldn’t he have at least sent an invitation or called? It’s over a month before the wedding. I was clearly one of those B-list invites I so often read about on this site. Ouch.
I have received a follow up voice mail from the offending party.
The gentlemen called to further plead with me to attend his wedding and further emphasize that they first had to invite relatives before they could invite friends. Once they received enough declined invitations, he and his fiancee could then graciously bestow secondhand invitations to the people they “really wanted” at their wedding. I had to return his call and leave a message, again politely declining. I more or less said that, although I would love to celebrate with him, I would be unable to do so because it is such a busy time and he sprung this on me at the last minute (or over a month before the event, but who’s counting?). I congratulated him again and figured that would be that.
A few hours later, I received a text message saying that he had received my voice mail and he would be returning my call soon. Why? I have no idea. I really thought the conversation was closed. He clearly just doesn’t get it. 0606-11, 0615-11
Text Message Invites Are Alive ….and Late
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