Your Wedding Is Interferring With The Game

by admin on July 1, 2013

This is the story of a wedding where is was the FOB who made the scene…

First of all I have to give a little bit of background. In my country, the couple pays for the wedding, not the parents. It is also very common that the gifts are opened during reception. Because of that it is also very common that people make a little prank of the gift, like hiding money inside a really ugly garden gnome (that the couple have to break to get the money out) or wrap the gift nicely and then put the parcel inside a bigger box and wrap that box also and so on.

I also like to point out that the FOB usually is a very kind, quiet man who never makes any fuss over anything, hence we were all very surprised at what happened at the wedding of his youngest daughter, my husband’s cousin.

Anyway, the FOB has a interest in sports. On the day of the wedding there was a game scheduled. The ceremony was beautiful and everybody enjoyed the reception. There was a lovely three course dinner being served. During dinner FOB started to make rather loud remarks to his neighbor about whether or not dinner would be over in time for the game. The remarks were louder and louder. All guests tried to ignore him as we thought is was rather impolite of him.

We finish the meal, the cake was cut and everybody was chatting and were trying to get to know the new in-laws. The game is about to start and before everybody is served the cake, the FOB puts the TV on in the reception hall (the reception was held at a reception area of a church where they have lots of different kind of activities during the week, like movie night for the teens, hence the TV). He and some of the men start to watch the game. Ok, fine, they weren’t really bothering anyone even though the rest of us found it a bit rude.

Then it was time to open the presents. Because of the above mentioned, that is a rather loud moment, everybody wants to see the presents being opened, laughing about the pranks, admiring the nice gifts and taking photos. This annoyed the FOB who started to increase the volume of the TV and finally started to scream that we all should be quiet, they couldn’t hear the game!!

So, on his own daughters wedding, instead of participating in the festivities, he was watching a game, screamed at the guests because they disturbed the game and refused to do the traditionally father-daughter dance since the game was not over yet. 0626-13

 

{ 36 comments… read them below or add one }

Lo July 1, 2013 at 8:07 am

This is nuts.

I cannot imagine a parent doing that to their child. I hope the bride and groom said something to him.

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Wild Irish Rose July 1, 2013 at 9:23 am

Wow! Had I been the bride, I think I would have invited my father to go home and watch the game the minute he started sounding off about it. The father-daughter dance would then have become the FIL-DIL dance, unless FIL wanted to leave too. Family!

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June First July 1, 2013 at 2:32 pm

Yes, this.
I like the word “invite” in your post, because it speaks to a polite spine.

If this happened on my wedding day, I probably would have asked someone else to handle it so I didn’t have some sort of meltdown. The day is stressful enough without toddler-like behavior from your father.

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Miss-E July 1, 2013 at 9:36 am

My cousin had a beautiful wedding on his wife’s family’s property (aka out in a field in the middle of nowhere). They worked really hard to make it amazing (dance floor, lights, tables, etc). They live in a college town and their wedding coincided with a big football game for the university. Several people didn’t come to the wedding because they had tickets (people who had RSVP-ed yes) and in the middle of the reception, someone drove their truck out to the field with a tv rigged up in the back so they could watch the game!

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Snarkastic July 1, 2013 at 4:50 pm

It continuously amazes me how lacking in grace some people can be. How absolutely rude!

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AS July 1, 2013 at 9:42 am

That is sad. One can always watch the game in replays. But there will never be another opportunity to live the festivities of one’s daughter’s wedding.

The day I got married was the Euro cup (men’s) finals. I am an ardent fan of football (soccer), and so is most of both our family members. Plus I am a gigantic fan of the Spanish national team. Given the time difference between Ukarine an USA, the match was over before our ceremony started. But none of us turned on the TV, because we wanted to enjoy all every moment leading upto the wedding, and not spend it watching the match. Living the happy moments of your own life are way more valuable than watching a match game that a group of strangers play.

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Angel July 1, 2013 at 9:44 am

If it was my dad I would have told him to leave. And probably not talked to him again for a while.
Fortunately my dad thinks all sports are idiotic and a waste of time.

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Carrie July 1, 2013 at 9:45 am

I guess this guy never heard of DVR? Seriously, it’s your own daughter’s wedding. I think most fathers will agree that outweighs any sporting event.

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Cat July 1, 2013 at 9:54 am

If my father had acted like that at my wedding reception, I would have found a very large basket and left him on someone else’s doorstep or put an ad in the local paper, “For sale or trade, one slighty-used father. Make an offer.”
There are recording devices that can be used to record TV programs one wishes to see, but a time-conflict prevents them from being watched live. Dad should have done that and watched his game post-reception. Wife or daughter should have made it clear to him that that is what he was to do.

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Marozia July 1, 2013 at 9:00 pm

I would’ve got the reception area people to unplug the TV or even deactivate it.
The height of rudeness!! To do that at your own child’s wedding is unthinkably vulgar.
I hope mother & daughter bawled him out.

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Cat July 2, 2013 at 8:17 pm

I thought of that too, but, with that kind of sports mania, he would just have plugged it back in and felt ill-done-by because they had pulled the plug on him.
I still say, trade him in for something more loyal-perhaps a nice puppy.

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Lady Macbeth July 1, 2013 at 10:54 pm

I giggled at the idea. I love the notion of Craigslisting dad!

I am rather constantly and consistently amazed at where our priorities tend to lie these days.

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Mae July 1, 2013 at 11:24 am

A game more important than his daughter’s wedding, no father/daughter dance because of the game AND screaming at the guests? This father gets an A for a..hole.

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NostalgicGal July 1, 2013 at 12:43 pm

At the reception, I would’ve been altering the power distribution (aka go cut the circuit breaker at the panel or palming a fuse) on behalf of the poor bride….

Unless that TV was hard mounted, there could have been removing it before the reception.

There is always DVR! Time shifting is an honorable pastime.

Some people there is no reasoning with them and their SPORTS.

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Carol M July 1, 2013 at 1:45 pm

My brother is a huge sports nut too, and at the time of my wedding had a job in the sports information department of the local university. Our wedding was the Saturday following Thanksgiving, which was a busy time for them, but the worst my brother did was ask why we chose that date. We told him it was the most convenient date for family coming in from California, and that was that. He said he understood, he showed up, and he didn’t talk about sports any more than usual.

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Wren July 1, 2013 at 2:48 pm

He tore up his daddy card.

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The Elf July 2, 2013 at 12:26 pm

Hell yeah. I can’t imagine something like that. Talk about messed-up priorities. I love football, so I can understand the desire to see the game. Which is why I would have recorded it to watch it later.

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Hanna July 1, 2013 at 2:57 pm

Oh that was sad, I really thought the way the story was told, that in the end, something to do with the “gag” gifts would correlate with what he was doing with the TV (like surprise honeymoon tickets to some cool destination where a game was–or maybe a big screen TV for the new couple, etc.) So in the end, I was very sad.

Can’t believe someone didn’t go out there, rip the cord out of the wall, and say “no way guys”. Barring that, I think it’s rude that whoever rented the church out didn’t say, hey–who says you can take the church’s tv out and turn it on? That’s not in the rental agreement, put it away. And then, that all said, I can not believe there wasn’t someone there with a big enough spine to tell them they were being rude, inconsiderate, thoughtless jerks and they needed to grow up and be real men.

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Snarkastic July 1, 2013 at 4:52 pm

Overall, this didn’t make me mad, it just made me sad. This is one of the worst stories, by far.

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Cami July 1, 2013 at 4:54 pm

Does not surprise me in the slightest. When I worked in bridal, I had many brides dealing with no-shows of close family members at their wedding due to football games and hunting season. I lost count of the number of fathers who would not attend their child’s wedding if it interfered with football or hunting and felt zero remorse over it.

The most memorable was the bride who wanted to plan her wedding so that it would occur before her brother was deployed to Afghanistan. She was in a hurry to move up her date and had a great deal of trouble finding a date her church was available. Unfortunately the only weekend available during the open time period was the weekend deer hunting season started. Her fiance said the only way he’d make the sacrifice of that day of hunting was if he and his groomsmen could come in blaze orange as their “silent protest” of being “forced to give up hunting for a wedding.” Yes, sadly, she did marry the dolt.

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Mary July 2, 2013 at 9:47 am

We wanted to get married before winter set in, due to being in the Upper Midwest. We would have relatives driving up to 45o miles (my inlaws) and didn’t want to worry about snow. My church was completely booked for all of September and October. So we selected the first weekend of November. I never thought about deer hunting opener in his state since my state started closer to Thanksgiving.

My father-in-law did make one comment about deer hunting (he lived for it every year) but sucked it up and refrained from other comments, at least in our presence. But several of my cousins and friends did not come due to hunting. However at that time, there were two weekends for deer hunting and your license was good for only one weekend. So anyone who had come to our wedding could have gone hunting the following weekend and did not miss out on hunting time. Plus I’m pretty sure all of the deer were not killed the first weekend.

My FIL and hubby’s sister did go hunting the weekend after our wedding and both of them did get bucks.

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MsDani313 July 1, 2013 at 4:55 pm

@ Cat…that is hilarious! I need to find one of those baskets…LOL

I would have told him to leave. If he felt the game was so important he could miss my reception and perhaps the rest of my life!

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Nikki July 1, 2013 at 8:40 pm

Oh my gosh! This is horrendous. If my father did this I would have him rushed to the hospital for an MRI, because clearly the only reason for such behavior would be some sort of head trauma. I feel so sorry for the bride.

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ItsyBitsy July 1, 2013 at 10:26 pm

This is terrible but why did other people in the bridal party let it happen? Why did no-one, his wife or a close relative or a friend of the FOB (not the bride, of course) take this guy in hand and say: this is not appropriate, get a grip, turn off the TV and come and participate in your daughter’s wedding. Or even, head trouble off at the pass by setting up the recorder beforehand.
My inner psychologist suspects that the FOB was stressed, since the OP says he’s normally a nice guy, and that The Game came to represent much needed relief but that doesn’t make it right.

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Lex July 2, 2013 at 4:16 am

My relationship with my father is…. difficult and has been for a long time but he would not stoop so low as to ruin my wedding to watch a sporting fixture. How very sad. I feel sorry for the bride in this scenario and can’t believe that NO-ONE thought to step in and do something about it – I know my mother would be LIVID the second he switched the TV on. To scream at the guests is unforgivable. I sincerely hope he is now paying for his thoughtlessness with isolation and castigation although I suspect a man like this wouldn’t care.

In the UK The Father-daughter dance seems to be considerably less popular than the B&G first dance – I know I plan to have neither as I find the whole thing deeply embarrassing but even so, to humiliate your daughter on her wedding day – this man doesn’t deserve to be called a father.

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Library Diva July 2, 2013 at 10:14 am

I have many avid sports fans and more than a few avid hunters in my extended family and circle of friends. I cannot imagine this behavior from any of them. I’ve never understood those who would prioritize something like this over their own lives. To forego the father-daughter dance to watch some sporting event is just beyond my comprehension. I agree with Snarkastic: this is one of the worst stories.

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Ally July 2, 2013 at 11:30 am

What I don’t understand is that, I like football as much as the next guy, but there are a LOT of games. Even a lot of rivalry games.

I can’t imagine missing a once-in-a-lifetime event for something that happened every week.

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AMC July 2, 2013 at 11:47 am

If it were my father or husband behaving this way, I think I would have unplugged the TV, informed those watching that this space was reserved for a wedding not game night. And if they still wanted to watch the game, they were welcome to go home watch it there.

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Anna July 2, 2013 at 12:11 pm

My wedding was on the same day as Game 6 of the 2003 World Series, our reception coincided with the game time. Yet despite having a room full of baseball nuts, I was barely even aware the game was going on. My friends that we interested in the game snuck downstairs a couple of times to check the score, but still danced, ate, and drank with us. I will admit that I was very happy with the results when I got to the after party and saw that the Marlins had defeated the Yankees and won the series. We are a sports loving group of friends and family and yet even we did not let a major sporting event interfere with a major life event. This dad should be ashamed of himself.

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ferretrick July 2, 2013 at 12:21 pm

Agree with everyone else, but my question is, where was Mom in this debacle? Assuming the parents are still together, she should have shut him up when the comments started and it should never have even got to actually turning on the TV in the reception.

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Gee July 2, 2013 at 12:22 pm

For pete’s sake, there will be other games. And you know, news with sports recaps? DVR? Your daughter is getting married, which is usually a once-in-a-lifetime event. That’s so sad. I can’t believe there’s even a conflict for anyone, no matter how much you love your sport!

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Michelle C. Young July 4, 2013 at 6:14 am

I miss my Dad so much right now. Thankfully, he was never a sports-fanatic. I cannot imagine him doing anything like this. He had his priorities straight.

My condolences to the bride for the diss she got from her father. That had to hurt so much.

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Superbowl Baby July 4, 2013 at 2:19 pm

That is so unbelievably rude of the FOB. Unfortunately I can relate. I was born during the Superbowl, so my father was unable to make it. Every six or seven years, the stars align again and so various birthdays are usually treated as irritations by sports-loving family and friends. It’s sad when people can’t put a game (or any other form of entertainment, or social media, or whatever) aside to celebrate with loved ones. I fear it’s getting worse thanks to smartphones and screens everywhere!

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nayberry July 6, 2013 at 10:19 am

i actually fell out with a friend when she decided a weekend drinking trip was more important than my wedding. she had been invited 8 months prior to the date and rsvp’d, the week before i received a text message stating that she had “totally double booked herself and she knew i’d forgive her”!

lemme think about that…….. Nope!

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Andrea B. July 7, 2013 at 10:50 am

Sadly, this behavior does not surprise me. My cousin’s wedding is coming up in September, and quite a few uncles are not going because they don’t want to miss the New York Giants football game.

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pbird July 9, 2013 at 7:45 pm

Personally I hate going to weddings. But if I consented to go I would act like I was at a wedding. What a strange man.

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