Emily Remembers

by admin on June 20, 2013

We had moved out of the neighborhood we shared with Emily’s family some years before. They had moved in when she was eleven months old. Even as a toddler, she’d been fascinated with my husband Sam, and he was always especially fond of her. As she got older, he found odd jobs for her to do around our place. Some years ago, we moved closer to our jobs.

I was touched to receive an invitation to Emily’s and Justin’s wedding. I hadn’t seen Emily for three years, when she and her parents attended my husband’s funeral. That she was even thinking to invite “the older lady who had lived across the street” was touching. I was able to get her email address at that time and wrote her an occasional note.

A week before the wedding, I received this email from Emily:

Hello Sarah! I’m so excited to see you next Sunday, at the wedding. It really means a lot to me that you are going to be there. I do have a question for you. We are planning on having a memorial candle in honor of those who cannot be with us on our wedding day. I was wondering if you would be ok with me placing a photo of Sam on display. I realize that you may not be comfortable with that and I respect that. And I want to make sure that your feelings are honored. Again, I am just so happy that you are going to be there.

I told her it would be lovely. It meant a lot to me.   0609-13

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InNM June 20, 2013 at 7:04 am

Beautiful, just beautiful. She asked for permission.

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Lo June 20, 2013 at 7:50 am

So nice to see genuine kindness here. What a thoughtful woman.

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AS June 20, 2013 at 9:37 am

That is so sweet! Thank you for sharing it with us. This girl has a very special place for you and your husband in her heart.

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Cat June 20, 2013 at 9:40 am

That’s marvelous and a sign of a loving heart.

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EJK June 20, 2013 at 9:50 am

This is one of the sweetest things I have read. Thank you for sharing this with us.

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Library Diva June 20, 2013 at 10:24 am

It just goes to show that you never know what impact you may have on a life. I will try to remember that more myself. Lovely story!

My husband’s family has a tradition of displaying the photos of deceased relatives or close friends at weddings, too. He says that one of his favorite memories of our wedding day was seeing his mother pick up the photos of his grandfathers and “dance” with them one last time.

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KiKi June 20, 2013 at 10:37 am

What a lovely reminder of how people are supposed to act towards one another! Your husband would have been proud, I’m sure. Very touching.

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Corine June 20, 2013 at 10:52 am

I got chills just reading this. That is an absolutely wonderful, touching story. Her parents, and your husband, did a fantastic job of raising her!

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Nicole June 20, 2013 at 11:15 am

What a charming, kind bride!

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Stacey Frith-Smith June 20, 2013 at 11:15 am

Aw! Just the sweetest thing EVER! Sniff. Sniff.

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Melinda June 20, 2013 at 11:24 am

Emily is a class act! That brings tears to my eyes.

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Phitius June 20, 2013 at 1:09 pm

This brought tears to my eyes.

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WildIrishRose June 20, 2013 at 2:39 pm

Very sweet!

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AIP June 20, 2013 at 3:09 pm

A lovely story and a lovely lady. :)

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SJ June 20, 2013 at 3:29 pm

What an excellently worded note! Asking, showing respect, being honest, and making sure the OP knows that her presence is valued regardless of her answer.

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Michelle M June 20, 2013 at 4:25 pm

This actually made me cry!

What a thoughtful, sweet, wonderful girl. Her parents should be very proud. :)

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Addy June 20, 2013 at 7:03 pm

Oh dear…I seem to have something in my eye…darn…allergies. Yeah, that’s it…allergies. Sniff.

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Shoebox June 20, 2013 at 11:49 pm

How lovely. Sounds like Emily put a lot of thought into the best way to carry out what was already a loving and generous impulse. I really hope her fiance appreciates what a treasure he’s got there. :)

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AnnaMontana June 21, 2013 at 3:51 am

A very kind bride.
I, myself am having a collection of photographs of the people who have left us and should have been there on our wedding day. They’re going to be scattered around the cand buffet beside their favourite sweets! People we would have otherwise invited are going to be there to see us on the day, even though Heaven is a bit far.
My Grandad, Great Uncle, Fiance’s Grandad and Granny and my Great-Grandmother are all being honored this way.

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Kirsten June 21, 2013 at 4:16 am

I love it.

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Angel June 21, 2013 at 3:04 pm

That is very kind and wonderful and considerate of her to ask permission first. I didn’t do memorial candles at our wedding and wish I would have. What a nice way to remember those who are with us in spirit :)

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Allanna June 22, 2013 at 12:59 pm

What a beautiful gesture … I, too, find that I must have gotten something in my eye. A seasonal allergy, perhaps.

Such a thoughtful bride! It’s so refreshing (and awesome) to get such a wonderful and sweet story on this site. ^_^

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RC June 23, 2013 at 10:14 pm

Someone bring me tissues, stat! What a wonderful, thoughtful bride. A little ray of sunshine after reading about Basketgate. I have hope for the world again!

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Lilly June 24, 2013 at 5:26 am

That’s so lovely. Bless the happy couple.

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KitKat June 24, 2013 at 6:29 pm

My brother and SIL did something similar. Cookie tables are common where I grew up however the wedding was held in a place where that wasn’t common. SIL loved the idea though so there was a cookie table. Also in one corner was my brother’s favorite cookie, my SIL’s favorite cookie, the parents’ favorite cookie, and the grandparents’ favorite cookie (14 types of cookies) with a picture of them and a little card that said “[name]‘s favorite cookie.” It was a nice way to honor the grandparents who had passed away. That table was also my brother and SIL’s “cake.” They fed each other their favorite cookie.

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Gee June 25, 2013 at 10:47 am

Oh, how wonderful! It’s so nice to see that there are still such kind people out there.

Excuse me, I think I have some grit in my eye.

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Bumpy June 25, 2013 at 12:23 pm

My cousin did something like that during her wedding ceramony. Her husband to be had a liver transplant. If I remember correctly, they said a prayer, had a moment of silence and lit a candle for the donor.

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bloo June 25, 2013 at 2:00 pm

Emily’s fianc√© is a lucky fellow, indeed!

I want to cry.

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Gerald Logue July 4, 2013 at 6:21 pm

What a very thoughtful gesture from such a nice young woman. . .

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JackieJormpJomp September 21, 2013 at 7:17 am

Aww…lovely.

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