I am invited to my boss’s daughter’s wedding. There are over 400 people invited, as he is a very successful businessman in the community. I am attending with my boyfriend. I am conflicted as to what constitutes an appropriate gift. I am familiar with the venue, and I know that the cost per plate will be about $50.00. I typically give $200.00 cash if the wedding is for a close friend/family member. I am close to my boss, but barely know his daughter (although she is very nice, and about the same age as me). I was thinking I would give her something off the registry, but the bride is registered at two places, but every single item on the registry has already been purchased. I am a little strapped as I have 5 weddings to attend this summer, and most of those are for good friends. Do you think I should just bite the bullet and give $200.00, or would an off-registry gift of less value be acceptable? Do you think a boss really expects an employee to give an expensive gift? 0501-13
Your boss should not have an expectation of his daughter receiving anything from anyone, including employees. In other words, don’t presume that Boss has any expectations.
And you would be wrong to facilitate the erroneous perception that a wedding gift must equal the cost of the meal.
Give what you are comfortable giving. Often it is not the cost of the gift that can be memorable but the thoughtfulness that went into giving it. Get creative in your gift giving. For example, send 6 chocolate covered strawberries (Shari’s Berries….www.berries.com) to arrive a day or two after the couple arrives home from the honeymoon as a way to sort of “extend” the honeymoon romance. Cost: $30-ish.
What you should definitely do, without fail, is to thank your boss as you leaving the wedding reception saying, “Thank you so much for inviting us. It was a lovely wedding and we really enjoyed ourselves.”