My husband and I received an invite to an acquaintance’s wedding in June. I’m all for weddings because they’re fun and festive events so I didn’t see any reason why we shouldn’t go.
Until we got to the RSVP card.
Along with doing them the honor of attending the happy couple’s nuptials were a series of check boxes for the potential attendees to tick off in order to pay for the wedding meal. $65 for each adult, $30 for children, and toddlers/babies were free.
I was baffled. Was this some contemporary custom I was previously unaware of? I asked around and learned that asking your guests to pay for their meals was mostly uncommon. The RSVP doesn’t state that you get to choose your entree, etc. and clearly asks you enclose a check for the full amount of whomever is attending.
We politely declined to attend but still: asking your wedding guests to pay for their own food? How strange! 0320-13
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It’s nothing more than contemporary rudeness and base crassness by very ungracious people who wanted a bigger wedding than their budget can afford. You were right to decline the so called “invitation”.