Someone I went to school with recently got engaged. We’re friends on Facebook because while we never hung out outside of school, we were always friendly to each other and always shared a laugh when we saw each other at school. Anyway, he posted a status about the website he and his fiance had set up being almost complete, and invited everyone on his friends list to check it out. I was quite surprised when I got to the “Reception” section of the site and read the following:
Dinner, for those who are invited, will begin at 5pm.
(insert reception venue and address here)
For everyone else, there are a number of restaurants close by and all affordable.
Most restaurants can be found near the mall between Mattis and Neil street,
primarily in the north region of the city.
Cake and Drink(s) reception will begin at 6:30pm at the same location.
Everyone is INVITED!
and, in the RSVP section, part of it said:
Reception Details: All guests with marked invitations will have dinner at 5:00pm at… (reception venue soon-to-be decided)
I’m a bit mystified by this. I already think A and B guests lists are rude but to flat out TELL people that “some of you will be invited to dinner, some of you won’t”, seems to make this whole thing EXTRA rude. Now, I know there are parts of the world where this sort of thing might happen. However, we don’t live in one of those places. We come from a place where if you can’t afford to feed them, you don’t invite them. So I guess I’m just wondering, is there EVER a situation where the sort of reception I mentioned is okay, especially if some guests are flat out TOLD they won’t be invited to dinner and have to fend for themselves? 0312-13
Oh ho, is there going to be a potential for misunderstanding at this reception! Guests who did not understand that there is a hierarchy in place as to who has been deemed worthy of being fed a meal will show up expecting to be seated and fed. Then there are the A Listers who also are not fully cognizant of the differentiation between guests and invite a fellow wedding ceremony guest (unfortunately a B Lister) to come along with them to the reception. No way I would touch this reception with a ten foot pole. And I bet it’s a cash bar reception, too.
Utterly, completely classless, tasteless and ungracious.
And the sad, very pathetic thing about this is that there will be B List guests who accept the hospitality dregs and believe themselves fortunate to have gotten a piece of cake after waiting a few hours fending for themselves while their betters have been chowing down on Chicken Marsala, prime rib, and shrimp cocktail.