A friend of mine started at a new box (gym) about a year ago and fell in love with her trainer. They just got married this week in an intimate ceremony in their presence of each of their teenaged children. She shared her wedding page (with links to her registry). Although she has been married a few times before (and has a lot of household items already), I wanted to send my well wishes along with a gift for their home.
However, when I went to their website, I was disappointed to see the following:
“As most of you are aware, we have a beautiful and established life together and are now beginning a Crossfit box! With that comes the need for lots and lots of equipment…. We would love for you all to assist and share in our love for Crossfit and Paleo and the main things that have brought us together and in which we plan to continue on and to share and pass on to others. Together, we can contribute to a healthier future for not only ourselves, but for others.”
The registry contained an insane amount of gym equipment.
Although I’m happy they are starting a business together, I don’t feel like a set of weights really says “congratulations on your marriage”. I was thinking about a set of linens, but I don’t know if they will match the decor/style of their home. Ideas??? 0307-13
Wedding guests are under no obligation to financially provide the capital investment for a business. Just because someone wants to exploit a person’s natural tendency to bless the newly married with a gift by requesting that guests invest in building a new business venture, doesn’t mean guests should fall for it. People misuse weddings all the time to increase their material assets and this is just a new twist on wringing out of normally generous guests the means to start or expand a business. A nice card with a gift certificate to a restaurant is a suitable gift for those who have everything they need to set up a house.