A few years ago one of my half-brothers got married to a lovely women. I have two half-brothers; one from my Mom and another man and one from my Dad and another women, my Dad’s son was the one getting married. So I’m very excited for the wedding but I notice that I’m not asked to be a bridesmaid. I don’t think that this is a huge deal, maybe they don’t want siblings in the wedding. (It’s important to note that my half-brother has another sister from his mom and another man and his wife has two sisters.) Come wedding day I find out that I am the ONLY sibling that is not a bridesmaid, my brother’s other sister was, his wife’s two sisters were, and so were a few of my brother’s cousins. I felt, and still feel, VERY hurt about this! I live only an hour away from the wedding, was old enough, and had enough money to buy whatever I needed to buy to be a bridesmaid. I’m wondering if I’m blowing this all out of proportion…or if I’m justified in being hurt. 0223-13
Even if you were justified in being hurt, what would you gain by continuing to be offended years later? I don’t know the reasons why you were overlooked to be a bridesmaid but if you interact with your family with an obvious chip on your shoulder, you will definitely confirm in the minds of some that perhaps it was a good idea after all to keep you out of the wedding party. The wedding was a few years ago but today is the here and now. You want to be gracious, helpful and kind so that your relationships with your brother and his wife are enhanced. Move on.