My brother is getting married this summer and my mother is already thinking of how she can host as many out of town guests as she can so they don’t have the additional cost of staying in a hotel. I happen to have a spare room and she has just assumed that I’d be willing to have extended family stay with me over the wedding weekend.
I live in a small, one full-bath town home, with my husband and two young children (1 and 3 years old). I simply don’t want the extra stress of hosting, feeding and entertaining people I literally haven’t seen in years. I explained to my mother that every wedding I’ve attended as an adult I’ve stayed at a hotel and this cost was factored in the decision of whether to attend the wedding or not. My mother thinks I’m being selfish and unreasonable to not want to help family out. Am I being selfish? Am I obliged to open my home to out of town guests? 0218-13
Your mother has no authority to issue invitations to guests to stay in your home. If you do open your home to guests, it is at your discretion and whom you wish to invite to stay. For one night, I think you can handle one overnight guest, perhaps a single cousin you haven’t seen in a while but do you have to? No.