I recently attended a wedding that was held at the house of the parents of the bride. It was the first wedding I’d been to in many, many years, so I guess I’m a bit rusty on how weddings progress nowadays. I don’t really know if this was an etiquette faux pas or just my lack of knowledge about the wedding cakes tradition nowadays. They had two wedding cakes, the first traditional big, tiered one, then a smaller groom’s cake that was in the shape of something regarding the groom’s occupation. Both were on display, side by side. When it came time to serve the cake, only the big, tiered cake was cut up and served. The same thing happened with the cake-feeding between the bride and groom. The groom’s cake just sat there untouched all night. I thought that was a bit odd, but is that the normal tradition with groom’s cakes? Is that perhaps for the couple to enjoy by themselves later on? Many of us guests were curious as to what kind of cake it was, if it was going to be served, etc. 0210-13
No, it is not a typical tradition to leave the groom’s cake untouched. If it is presented on the cake table or buffet, it is there to be eaten.