I’m having a wedding in a couple of weeks and wanted to know what the proper etiquette is for tipping vendors. For instance we have our wedding photographer, our hair/makeup person, our flower vendor, and our DJ. Do we tip 20%? I always tip at least 20% but have never had a $1000 bill to work that off of, so now I’m worried that we’ll be out so much more money from all the 20% tipping! (But we will of course do so if that’s the right thing to do!). Any advice/direction will be much appreciated. 0213-13
I am of the opinion that wedding vendors do not need to be tipped above and beyond their contracted fees for service. I have never been tipped for wedding event coordinating services I have provided because I am already well compensated from the fees I have charged. The caterer has already factored in a gratuity to the proposed bill and on top of that has added a “service charge” which is often further profit. I do, however, carry a wad of $20 bills to give to exemplary waitstaff since the gratuity that has been added to the catering bill sometimes does not trickle down to them. I discreetly slip a twenty to each waitstaff.
Nearly all wedding vendors are self-employed owners of their business and trust me, they would prefer a sincere, detailed thank you note or letter of recommendation or a good review on Angie’s List or Google than any immediate cash tip. Cash is for the moment but a good review/recommendation is the gift that keeps on giving.