This isn’t really a story, it’s more of a question. I am now engaged to my BF of 6 years. We have a home together and now we feel ready to take the next step. I desperately want to avoid the situation my friend had, where the gifts were all she cared about (another story for another time), but at the same time, I know that most of my friends and family are so excited about this wedding (first in my generation) and will most likely want to give gifts.
How would the readers of EHell put it out there that we don’t expect gifts, but if people want to give them then money would be best in our situation? I know I sound really tacky and trashy, but we really do have everything for the home we need and have a LOT of antiques passed through the family to myself (the oldest and only girl). What would you guys do in this situation? 0120-13
1. Do not register for gifts anywhere. That includes any crass money registries.
2. When friends and family start asking what you would like for a wedding gift, you are free to tell them you prefer money. Pass the word among your parents and siblings so they can discreetly pass it as well to anyone who asks.
3. There will still be people who will want to give you a tangible wedding gift and you may be pleasantly surprised at how creative and welcome many of them are.
4. And yes, you will definitely appear trashy and tacky if you do anything to manipulate your guests’ gift giving to achieve your desired results of more income.