I’d love to nominate my eldest cousin for the ‘perfect bride’ category on the site.
From the beginning, it was going to be a good wedding. After all, what can one say about getting a wedding invitation….with a personal note from the couple to each and every guest? It definitely made everyone invited want to attend the ceremony!
My cousin has always been the diplomat in the family, but I am amazed at how she was able to balance out the demands of the guest list. We all knew she wanted a very quiet, intimate wedding, but since her husband comes from a political family, there were really some people outside of family and close friends who had to be invited to the wedding. She was very composed and candid about it all, negotiating very well with my uncle (her dad), and her in-laws about the guest list.
She was not fussy about what her five maids-of-honor would wear: as long as they followed the color scheme (a nice mint-green) and used the same dark brown details/accents, the ladies could pick whatever style suited them. The result was five very glamorous and beautiful maids of honor. She was not picky at all with the groomsmen’s styles either. She also had very cute, lovely dresses designed for the two flower girls (her groom’s two little nieces). Both girls (a nine year old and a five year old) loved them! My cousin did insist on the wedding sponsors/godparents having the same sort of dress, but she did not get overly upset when one of my aunts (who was just flying in only for the wedding as she is a busy dentist), had trouble fitting in her gown. She let my aunt wear a nice gown in the color scheme of the day anyway.
Since the wedding was out of town, my cousin arranged and/or suggested accommodations for all the guests who needed it. It was a foggy and rainy morning on the day of the ceremony, but no one ever mentions my cousin snapping or being rude to anybody. Despite the weather, everyone was so happy to turn up anyway. The ceremony was simple and tasteful, with the bride and groom writing their own vows in their respective styles of verse.
Instead of forcing everyone to wait in line and stay hungry before the actual reception began, my cousin made sure to arrange for snacks and drinks: first outside the church just before we showered the couple with rose petals, and then later at the reception where each guest was given some refreshments to tide everyone over before the buffet was served. The reception was exquisite from the decor right down to the wedding cake (actually a cupcake tower with Barbie and Optimus Prime as cake-toppers).
Since there were many guests who had to be back in town right away, but there were also a lot of young guests who wanted to continue partying and celebrating, the bride and groom had the foresight to arrange for an ‘after party’ at a nice spa hotel. This was mainly so that the older people in the group (grandparents, parents, etc.) could still get rest wherever they wanted, and so other guests wouldn’t be pressured in staying for festivities since it was a busy weekend for everyone. It was very important for the bride that as many of her cousins would be at the party, so she took the extra step of arranging and paying for accommodations for me and my two siblings instead of pressuring our parents to shell out more money or making us drive all the way back to town late at night!
The day after the wedding, the couple made sure to mingle with each other’s family members and guests instead of keeping to themselves all day. They generously acknowledged and thanked the hotel proprietor for his being very solicitous and patient with everyone’s late night partying antics.
All thank you notes for this wedding were personalized and given promptly to each guest. My cousin’s husband is a cool and intelligent man, but everyone says that he’s got one wonderful catch in his lovely, sophisticated bride.
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