As you may be aware, in some Asian countries it is the usual practice for wedding guests to give money to the bridal couple in a red envelope/packet, and for the bridal couple to host a dinner banquet (well “traditionally”, it’s the groom’s family that hosts but nowadays, young couples tend to foot the bill themselves). Singapore has this practice and the rule of thumb is for guests to give enough to cover the cost of their own plate. There are websites that publish guidelines for how much one should give, depending on where the dinner banquet is held and on which day of the week. I know this goes against lots of Western ideals of etiquette but that’s how things are done here, and for some this is thankfully changing.
Still, the topic of money is rather sensitive and no one openly discusses who gave how much for whose wedding (unlike some other Asian counties, they open the red envelops there and then and even announce it to the crowd; I’m serious!). Close family members may gossip, of course, but by and large open discussion of how much money is received after a wedding is considered unseemly.
Well, that’s what I thought! Until I read this:
Basically, a bride confronted a friend/relative as to why she/he did not gift a red envelope despite attending the wedding banquet. I was shocked, to say the least! To see a gimme pig in real life action! I wonder if the bride received the red envelopes of cash more eagerly she did her guests! Tsk… Please! Please help me cast this ungracious bride into the very depths of etiquette hell!!!