I’m hoping this question may throw some people! My brother and sister-in-law did not get my husband and I any sort of gift when we wed. I am just as close with my brother as all my other siblings, there’s no problems there. My sister-in-law attended two bridal showers for me, and of course, they both attended the reception and they didn’t so much as give us a card. Is this a major faux pas? Or am I the one who should be in Ehell for even asking? 0831-12
I’m not sure you have provided enough information for the question to be answered. Did your sister-in-law bring a shower gift to both showers she attended? I budget how much I am giving in total to the couple and if that budgeted amount gets eaten up by shower gifts, I do not give a gift on the wedding day. If SIL brought gifts to both showers she attended, it seems to me they have been as generous as they could be.
You need to be careful to not equate gifts with love. The fact that they attended showers and the receptions means they invested time into celebrating with you. In our family, we spell “love” t-i-m-e. Material goods rust, break, get lost, rot and get thrown away but those “little wonders” of time that family spends with you are golden and last forever.