My husband is normally a very sweet and thoughtful guy, but he occasionally tramples all over etiquette in his quest for efficiency.
While we were going through the wedding process, I created a spreadsheet on my computer that listed important information such as the guest list, addresses for each guest, whether they’d RSVP’d, what gifts we’d gotten, etc.
When it came time to write thank you notes, my husband (who has a much larger family and was thus responsible for writing twice as many notes) desperately tried to convince me to let him use the spreadsheet to automatically create the notes, thus saving us all that pesky time that would otherwise be spent hand-writing thoughtful and sincere responses.
I can just picture it: “Dear AUNT BETTY, thank you so much for your lovely gift of CORNINGWARE CASSEROLES, THREE. We will cherish it/them in our life together. Your loving NIECE, Rachel.”
Needless to say, I didn’t let him anywhere near that spreadsheet. 0920-12
You can convince an efficiency freak of the need for handwritten, personal notes of thanks by reminding him or her that if they were to acquire that item, it would mean several hours of paid labor to earn the money to buy it, then shopping for it and bringing it home. Writing a sincere note takes far less time, maybe ten minutes at most.