There is an argument in my office as to whether the singer Taylor Swift acted poorly, or if the Mother of the Bride did in this scenario. To me it seems odd that Taylor was approached and asked to leave, when for all the MOTB knew, Taylor thought she was welcome. Can you weigh in?
Here is the story: http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/taylor-swift-a-kennedy-wedding-crasher/story-fnbk7kwa-1226456437889
Ok, here are my thoughts on this story….
If Taylor Swift and Conor Kennedy did not RSVP to the wedding, this is a major faux pas.
If they actually texted the Mother of the Bride, who is Conor Kennedy’s aunt, an hour before the wedding to see if they could come on short notice, this was a major faux pas.
It is not a faux pas for the Mother of the Bride to respond to the last minute phone call/text with a decisive, “No, I am sorry, we cannot accommodate you on such late notice.” I wish more hosts would say “No” to such rude, late requests so that we create a social stigma and negative consequence for those too entitled to bother informing someone of their intent to attend.
I note that Miss Swift’s publicist isn’t denying that the RVSP was not sent but rather that Miss Swift was asked to leave the wedding after being informed earlier that her last minute request was denied. Failure to RSVP is so rude and dismissive of the generous offer of an invitation and then to put one’s hosts under enormous pressure by calling them at the last minute to squeeze in is just as disrespectful and rude.
On the other hand, I’m not buying the story that Taylor Swift’s presence at the wedding created a distraction. This is the Kennedy family after all. Many family members are publicly prominent in politics and entertainment. And why would Swift be invited to the wedding at all if her presence would have been an alleged distraction? The distraction was undoubtedly Mother of the Bride, Victoria Gifford Kennedy , creating drama by asking Swift to leave. Victoria wasn’t thinking because if she had, she would have realized that the arrival of Swift followed quickly by a hasty departure would have created a lot of drama, gossip and speculation. Also the real “villain” may have been Conor Kennedy, not Miss Swift, who may have been clueless as to what Conor was communicating to his family (or not as in the case of an RSVP).
And the only way this story ever became newsworthy was due to the Mother of the Bride speaking with the press. If I were her, I would not have accommodated the crashers with choice seating at the reception, discretely made sure they did not displace legitimate guests from their assigned seats and said nothing because it is not my wedding but rather my daughter’s and I have no right to attach negative publicity to her special day.