I don’t know if I should be excited or appalled that I finally have a story to add to this fantastic website, but in any event, here it goes!
I have a friend who is getting married at the end of the summer. She is really great, and I’m very excited for her. But her MOH deserves to be tossed into E-Hell. She has always been pushy and borderline mean, but this is just plain rude.
A Wednesday night a few weeks ago I got a text message from the MOH, asking for my email address. I later saw her asking FriendofMine the same question on ‘VisageBook’. I replied with my email and twenty minutes later, around 10pm, I checked it. There was an e-vite for a surprise bridal shower three weeks away! I cringed inside immediately. The MOH has had an awful time at work lately, and her family gives her a lot of grief, but come on! I’m 24, and this is my second friend to get married, but even I know better than to send an e-vite! So that was strike 1.
I checked the date and location, and happily decided to go. I replied ‘yes’ to the e-vite (dying a little on the inside), and moved on. That is until around noon the next day. For those of you following, that’s a little over 12 hours since the e-vite was sent. I get a text from the MOH saying, and here I am directly quoting, “Please check your emails and reply to them please”, followed by, “Let me know if you can make the bridal shower”. I was shocked! Not only had the e-vite barely been sent but I had replied yes! I checked online that my response and gone through and sent a text back claiming confusion. I told her that I had said yes, wondering if it didn’t go through (even though I knew it had). She replied saying the system wasn’t confirming properly, so she texted to double-check. Still I was annoyed that she needed to know so immediately after the e-vite was sent! And of course, if she just wanted to confirm that I had RSVP’d, there are better ways to ask that! Maybe the reason the system ‘wasn’t confirming properly’ was that no one else had answered yet! That just shows how much better paper invites are. Strike 2
Strike 3 came about the following Saturday morning, a few days after the e-vite was sent. It was a call from FriendofMine, who also was asked for her email, and sent an e-vite. She wanted to go together on a shower gift, and offered to pick me up since I don’t have a car. But then she asked, “When did you get your e-vite?” To which I replied, “Wednesday night. Followed by a text from the MOH Thursday morning.” FriendofMine exclaimed, “I know! That was so rude!” Turns out, it was a mass text! So not only did MOH send out a rude text telling me to RSVP, she sent out the same message to numerous people at once! Might as well have just skipped the horrible e-vite and just texted the shower details! (I’m kidding, I swear!) For the record, FriendofMine hadn’t RSVP’d yet because she was going on vacation with her family and needed to confirm the dates before she could be sure she could attend. I can’t imagine MOH was too pleased about that, although FriendofMine never said (shes classy like that).
Hopefully, this shower will avoid any more strikes! The bride’s sisters are hosting along with the MOH (okay, that does count as strike 4) so I’m being cautiously optimistic that they will water her down. It’s taking place tomorrow afternoon, so if it doesn’t go so well, you’ll be hearing from me! 0706-12
I told the story a while ago of a wedding of a friend who used E-vite.com to send her wedding invitations. The many problems associated with this type of invitation delivery surfaced when much of the groom’s family never received the invitation email. I never got it either. Lots of confusion and chaos. So, just because you use E-vite or Facebook to issue invitations, doesn’t mean people will actually receive it or see it.
And there is the major issue of violating your guests’ personal privacy by giving away their real names, valid email addresses and snail mail addresses that will be “shared” by dozens of “partners”.