Biggest Production Proposal and Wedding…Not Sure What I Think

by admin on August 6, 2012

This was an episode of “Mobbed” where not only is there a surprise proposal accompanied by 1000 flash mob participants, it culminated in an on-the-spot wedding. While I thoroughly enjoy the joy of a wedding, I’m not sure I would agree that turning a wedding into a massive theatrical production whose sole purpose being on the TV is to sell advertising space is a good thing.

And btw, that is one epic wedding dress failure. I cannot believe the TV production dressmakers did not use a loop and string corset to close the back instead of dozens of little buttons. With a coordinating piece of fabric underneath the two ends of the corset, they could have snugged up the bodice to be far more fitting that it was and still had plenty of play to accommodate her size. And the tiara they choose for her looked far too cheap.

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Roo August 6, 2012 at 12:51 pm

I saw this when it first aired and was horrified. Maybe it sounds bridezilla, but I feel like one of the great joys of a wedding is a day that’s celebrated by the bride and groom just the way they want – surrounded by their friends and family, glowing in the perfectly chosen dress, hearing the favorite poem read or song sung. This poor girl didn’t look like she was given a second to think about what she wanted before she was stuffed into some random dress and married in front of five thousand strangers. I’d be very disappointed to feel forced into such an impersonal wedding day, as if it’s all an assembly line. Dress? Check. (Who cares if it doesn’t fit?) Bouquet? Check. (Who cares if you don’t like roses?) Guests? Check. (Who cares if you don’t know them?) Officiant? Check. (Who cares that you always wanted Minister Jones from your regular church to marry you?) Sad.

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CaffeineKatie August 6, 2012 at 1:00 pm

I ‘ve always felt my DH’s proposal was a little understated, but OMG if he had tried ANYTHING like this, I would have left him flat. Tacky tacky tacky.

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Hemi August 6, 2012 at 1:18 pm

IF this is the type of thing you like, then by all means, go for it. ME, I would not enjoyed this. Way too over the top. (What will he do for the first anniversary? lol) I would have preferred a quieter, more intimate setting, without all the theatrics of an angry girl throwing water, a thousand dancers and an on- the- spot wedding without any choices.

I agree on the dress and tiara. Not good. Did they even button it all the way up? AND over the clothes she was already wearing?

I wonder- is the marriage legal? I thought you had to have a marriage license. In my state, the couple has to go together to apply for the license and sign the forms.

I would guess he was trying to be sweet and romantic but it missed the mark, IMHO.

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Kate August 7, 2012 at 5:46 am

I had the same thought re. the marriage license, Hemi. My fiance and I recently signed our ‘Notice of Intent to Marry’, which has to be submitted along with proof of identity at least three months before the wedding for a marriage to be legal in our state.

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Doris August 6, 2012 at 1:44 pm

It is cruel to let her think the man she loves has been fooling around, then overwhelm her with a mob singing and dancing. No one explained until the very end. Although she said she knew when the security guard began singing, her uncertain laugh during the early stages of the mob dance shows her state of mind.

Why didn’t they break for commercial and get her into the dress, fix her makeup, and do her hair? They could have made some quick alterations to the dress so it wasn’t gaping and shifting.

There are two things which the brides I’ve known have cared about almost as much as joining with the man they love – the dress and the photos. The bride in the video apparently didn’t get any say in choosing the dress. With its bad fit and with her makeup running, any photos would not have met with most brides’ approval.

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lkb August 6, 2012 at 2:09 pm

I agree with everything the Admin said about the dress and the rather cheesy crown and the massive theatrical production, so…

…why am I crying and laughing with joy for the very blessed bride?

Not the wedding I would have chosen but the groom is so obviously sincere and the bride is so obviously and genuinely floored by the spectacle put on just for her that it’s impossible to feel anything but happiness for them both.

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Ellie August 6, 2012 at 6:35 pm

I did the same thing. I cried and laughed all the way through! Of course, I agree with the Admin and definitely know I wouldn’t have liked it, but they look so happy!

I like to think they may have had a smaller, more intimate ceremony later. Especially if they didn’t legally married here.

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GroceryGirl August 6, 2012 at 2:27 pm

Whoa. Too much, waaaay too much. I think I’d be a little upset not to be able to plan my own wedding…but it was very sweet of him.

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Vicky August 6, 2012 at 2:45 pm

The proposal part was lovely for a public proposal. I think they should have stopped at the proposal though. Doesn’t every bride want to look beautiful on her day. Here they threw a dress over her clothes, it wasn’t completely buttoned (and maybe not what she would have chosen for herself) and there was no chance to freshen her make-up or hair. And depending on who you are, it can be fun to plan the wedding. I’m sure the groom had fun planning the proposal. Too bad the bride didn’t get to have that same fun herself.

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KiKi August 6, 2012 at 2:53 pm

Tacky, tacky, tacky!! She was ambushed into a wedding with a dress that didn’t even fit properly. She didn’t get to make choices with her fiance. He did all of the planning without including her in anything. What was so important about married right that instant? What a haphazard way to start your marriage. Boooooooo on the show and the groom. I second Doris! That was a cruel prank to pull on the woman before everything started. Horrible idea and really bad execution.

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Katy August 6, 2012 at 3:18 pm

I understand that some people like the public proposals. It’s their thing, I get it, I don’t mind the jumbotron or anything like that.
But I can’t imagine the pressure on this poor woman when the sudden proposal turned into a sudden wedding. You’re surrounded by loads of people, TV cameras, friends, family, and a celebrity… how do you say no? I know physically you say ‘no, honey, not here’, but I can imagine that she knows, in the back of her mind, if she says no she’ll forever be the person who said ‘no’ in front of the world and turn into one of those FAIL clips all over the internet. I think it’s almost emotional blackmail to get her to marry right then and there, and I’d be interested to see if she’s happy with it now.

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Hellbound Alleee August 6, 2012 at 3:31 pm

Hooray! There are a thousand strangers at my wedding, and just three friends and my Mom and Dad! I didn’t get to share this with all the other people I would have wanted, and all my childhood plans are gone! Thank you ABC (or CBS or whatever)! No good photographs of us with good hair and a fitting gown!

To be fair, there also was no family wedding drama to be had, but one wonders if there is still going to be a gift demand. Did the network give them a honeymoon or cash prizes?

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Wim August 7, 2012 at 5:27 am

This is not a real wedding, or is it?

I don’t know how these things work in the US, but my fiancĂ© and I had to register our wedding in advance with the municipality where we live, and fill out and sign a bunch of forms (so many forms that we even joked about this part taking much longer than the actual wedding ceremony).

I can only hope for the bride that there was to be a real wedding later on, with her involved in the preparations.

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Katy August 7, 2012 at 5:02 pm

But then, gasp, they’re doing a double wedding! To e-hell for trying to cover the first one up no matter how hideous the dress!
Totally kidding, but someone would probably do it.

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Andrea August 7, 2012 at 10:11 am

Am I the only one who found this painful to watch? I actually skipped through parts because I couldn’t take it. To each their own, but I would be absolutely mortified and upset if this was me, even if I wanted a large wedding. Hundreds of strangers watching me get married in an ill-fitting dress by surprise? No thanks!

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Sherani-Devi September 24, 2012 at 4:11 pm

I find it fitting that in German they use the term “mobbing” for “bullying” in this case.
Yeah, it’s a wedding and they love each other… but the ambushing aspect and the fact that they basically overwhelmed her with this sudden marriage makes me feel really uncomfortable.

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Wendy August 7, 2012 at 10:28 am

I saw this the other day and my first remark to my family during the set up for the “proposal” was, “I’d say NO!” It was a cruel, cruel prank played on her to purposefully make her cry so he could be some sort of “hero.” Later I elaborated on my remark…he stole her day from her. He stole her opportunity to plan her wedding, to chose what she did and didn’t want, who she wanted there, the music, the dress, everything, just so he could show off. It tells me he’s a ego-centric person and before long she’ll probably find that he has to have his way in everything. When she looks back on all this (if it hasn’t happened already) she’ll realize that she was made out to be a fool, made to cry in front of millions on TV because her “boyfriend” was staging a proposal via a so-called jilted lover, and then planned her wedding for her. That poor, poor girl.

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JB August 7, 2012 at 10:34 am

I think the real tragedy here is not that she missed out on the preparations for her wedding but the preparation for MARRIAGE. To go from just dating to married in a few minutes is really quite a loss as she had no opportunity to reflect on such a happy and blessed stage of life and her thoughts on what marriage means for her and her husband.
I can imagine waking up the next day or the next year regretting not having talked about expectations, hopes, fears, etc. There is such a lack of planning for marriage lately that it seems to be made a joke compared to the institution that it once was.

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Jenny August 7, 2012 at 10:51 am

I would have hated this. The rehearsal dinner, hanging out with your friends and family, waking up at getting ready? That was all a lot of fun. I would hate to miss out on this. I would have utterly refused this.

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Leah August 7, 2012 at 11:21 am

I agree with the dress, tiara, misleading the poor girl in the beginning, but the Admin’s comments prepared me for all that. For a flash mob mega-production, I thought it was exceptionally sweet and tastefully done (minus the water throwing of course) up until the groom and groomsmen began raunchy dancing. I could have done without that.

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Ashley August 7, 2012 at 12:28 pm

If you have to talk to a TV crew in order to get your proposal to happen, you’re doing it wrong. There. I said it. It’s out there. I hate this stupid program and it’s horrible cheesy overdone proposals. I’m sorry if that sounds harsh but seriously, come on now. I’m not saying dramatic proposals are all bad. There was that one where the guy got all the couples family and friends in on singing “I think I want to marry you”. That was awesome because it was all family and friends and they put the effort in, not hired strangers. The fact that they even started this video out with the strange woman throwing a drink is deplorable. Who does that? “Oh, I want to propose, lets start the evening by making my girlfriend think I may be cheating on her”. Then standard love songs sung by complete strangers, rather than songs that might actually have meaning to the couple? Ugh. Then the whole thing ends with the woman being crammed into an ill fitting dress and a horrible tiara crammed on her head with no time to recover from anything else that just happened. And the worst of the worst, this was all done for TV ratings and add space.

I’m sorry, I’m just over it. All of this stupid flash mob nonsense for every little thing! “Oh, you want to propose, lets have a flash mob!” “Oh, you graduated high school, here’s your flash mob!” “Great Aunt Tessie got her teeth fixed, FLASH MOB!”.

I’m done ranting now. I understand completely if this comment doesn’t get approved, I am just sick of people turning everything into a chance to get on TV or have their video go viral.

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jena rogers August 7, 2012 at 12:46 pm

Over-the-top strange.

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dolphin August 7, 2012 at 2:33 pm

I was shocked toward the end when I discovered it was in California. Knowing there was going to be a wedding, I had assumed they were in Nevada until then. I looked it up. While I didn’t see any mention of a waiting period, it did say that both parties had to apply for the marriage license at the county clerk’s office with proper identification. So, unless the show pulled some strings, they would have had to get married legally afterward anyway.

Personally, I wouldn’t have wanted such a public proposal, but some people like that, so as public proposals go, this was pretty cool, but they took it a step too far. The groom got to make sure that he was looking his best, but the bride didn’t even get to change out of the clothes she was wearing before putting on a dress that no one managed to close in the back. It would have been better not having a wedding dress at all rather than what they did. And at the end, when they asked her how she felt, she responded with, “I’m married.” It was just so anti-climactic.

I will admit that planning my wedding was a pain, and I’m really glad it’s over, but I was so happy that it was the wedding I wanted with the people I wanted there. There were certainly plenty of budgetary compromises that I had to make along the way, but my husband and I got to decide together what was important to us and what we could live without. This girl didn’t get any say in any of it, and honestly, though in this case it didn’t seem like she would have backed out, if you have a really public proposal that the girl is unlikely to say no to even if she wants to, you need to give her the opportunity to back out later if she wants to.

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Shoegal August 7, 2012 at 4:45 pm

I am so glad this wasn’t done to me. I think you would have had to go along with it and be a good sport about it but I would have felt just cheated out of all the special things I wanted to incorporate into my day – especially the dress. They threw some cheap, oversized gown over her head and didn’t even button it up!!! I just have to think they went home and did the whole again – the right way.

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goddessofpeep August 7, 2012 at 6:00 pm

I’ve never been a fan of the public proposal. You have to be 100% certain of what the answer is going to be, or it’s just going to be awful for everybody. There’s a video floating around youtube that illustrates this perfectly. Apparently the couple first met a mall, so the guy took her to the place they met in the food court, and had someone come out with a guitar and start singing a painfully sappy about her. Once he got down one knee and asked her, she just said “oh my god” and walked away quickly. The rest of the video is of the guy standing around, looking confused and embarrassed while strangers who had been watching with great interest now avoid making eye contact with the rejected guy. He then makes his exit as quickly as possible. You can find the video by searching youtube for “mall proposal fail”. It’s pretty brutal.

I think public proposals are unfair to both parties. The girl will most likely feel pressured with all those staring eyes at her and may end up giving an answer she really doesn’t want to give, and the guy is in for a public humiliation if he gets a “no”.

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Wendy B August 10, 2012 at 10:40 am

I wondered what would have happened if she had said no during this big production. I can’t remember if it was live or taped…a taped version wouldn’t have made it on the show, obviously, but a live version would be very embarrassing for everyone involved. Hmm.

I’m going to look up that video now!

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lkb August 8, 2012 at 8:54 am

Forgive me for commenting again. Okay, I get it — most people would like to have a say about their wedding: the clothing, who to invite, who to officiate, the venue etc. I get it. It’s what I would prefer myself. And yes, as the Admin and many other said, the dress should have been at least buttoned, the tiara was tacky and the whole performance was OTT. And yes, the bride was put on the spot and sort of forced to get married in front of a whole mess of strangers on national TV. (I particularly agree with the comments about preparing for marriage, rather than just the wedding, and the risks of starting the whole she-bang with (an albeit- false) presumption of infidelity.)

However, while I agree with the general thrust of the comments here, so many of them have the phrase I cringe at — “my day”. Excuse me, but a wedding involves the bride and the groom. It’s his day too. Maybe, just maybe, this was a way to take the pressure off her (or themselves). We don’t know them or the background story. (For one thing, I’ll bet this saved them a whole lot of money and stress.)

No, it’s not what I would have picked (nor anyone else here apparently). I am happy for them — they obviously love each other. I wish them well.

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girl_with_all_the_yarn August 8, 2012 at 10:17 am

The only comment I’ll make is that it likely wasn’t the groom’s idea to have a wedding. Shows like this are all about ratings and hey, if a proposal gets us a thousand viewers, then a wedding will get us A MILLION viewers!

…oh, you think your girlfriend won’t like the wedding? Too bad. You either have the wedding or you don’t get the fun proposal. Dems de breaks, kid.

The reality of reality television is that it’s remarkably scripted. It’s entirely rehearsed, plotted, planned and edited. If the producers want it in, they’ll get it in somehow.

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Wendy August 8, 2012 at 11:03 am

I think it looks like a lot of fun and the bride looked very touched by the whole thing. They can always redo the ceremony the way she wants it later. But for those of you saying she was kind of forced into saying yes….did you not see the excitement on her face about marrying him and telling him how much she loves him? Doesn’t look at all like she was pressured to say yes.

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AS August 8, 2012 at 5:48 pm

I am all for both the groom & the bride participating in wedding planning. In fact DH and I would run every single thing with each other before finalizing.
This guy, IMO, took it to he other extreme and his bride had no say what so ever.

It is one thing to put someone on the spot with a public proposal – if they don’t agree, they can at least break up in private ( the proposals are cute often, esp. if he couple had discussed in advance. But this girl is married, and cannot even break easily! ( assuming the wedding was actually valid; I was also wondering about the marriage license and stuff).

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Enna August 9, 2012 at 5:52 am

Hmm, I think this was effectively a forced marriage as she was put under pressure to say “yes” and in my view seems to be barely legal.

For the water throwing, what I think would have been better would be a clumsy waiter “accidetnally” spilling water, or white wine (something that won’t stain) onto the man and then he goes off to get changed. There would be no tears then – maybe even a laguh if it was staged right to look comical. Public purposal is one thing but to have the wedding straight after? Women have been sterotyped about how important it is to get married and they “pressure” or “trap” men to do it – to me that is wrong, but it is also wrong for a man to do the same.

As for the dress not fitting, I think that should have been better planned, in fact if the wedding was done a bit later, so both the groom and the bride could think about their marriage, which is a life long committment and there wouldn’t have been this “wardrobe mulfucniton”. If it was done say a month or so later if there were were any mulfuncitons in the wardrobe department, it would be different, you could justifiably say “all that mattered were the wedding vows.”

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Enna August 10, 2012 at 4:54 am

P.S I wonder how long they are going to be married? I would find it very hard to trust someone like thatas I would never know what they would expect. A man (or woman) who has the same mindset like the man in this video might find it hard to take the word “no”.

One thing if he purposed to her and they both decided to do it right away. You hear eccentric stories (which can be fun) when a couple meet and two weeks later they are married but that’s because they BOTH want to do it that way.

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Sherani-Devi September 24, 2012 at 4:15 pm

I think this is -very- close to that Russian guy who proposed by faking a deadly accident where his girlfriend had to watch him “die”, so she could realize how lost she’d feel without him, before he got up again and proposed.
It’s nowhere near as extreme, of course, but there’s still pressure behind it, in another way.
And I don’t like that at all.

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Cheryl November 22, 2012 at 9:59 pm

I’m totally ‘to each their own’ about the public proposal. It’s definitely not my thing, but that’s me. How he went about having water spilled on him so he could go in back and change, though, was wrong and douchy. Causing someone to be genuinely upset and in distress is Not Cool, and if I were in her place, when I realized what was going on I’d probably be extremely tempted to say ‘no’ and tell him that he’d have to ask me properly.

The first time I watched the transition between the proposal and when the woman was dressed, I was like, “When did she agree to being married right now?”, so I went back and watched it again, and, again, there wasn’t a single word from her about it other than, “Really?”. The man brought out her friends and the gown was brought forth, and she was given no choice but to go along with what was unfolding. I was so disgusted I couldn’t finish watching. I’m not going to criticize the woman for not putting her foot down and making an effort to stop the rushed wedding, because I’m sure her head was spinning with the speed at which things had unfolded she couldn’t quite keep up and pull her thoughts together enough to put her foot down on the production. I feel terrible for her, that she wasn’t able to have any say whatsoever in what she wore, the bridesmaids dresses, the date and time, the location, who was there,…any of it. For her sake, I hope this is a wedding she can look back on with happiness and be satisfied with.

I’d be livid if my guy asked if I wanted to get married right now and then allowed events to roll right on without getting my answer. I’d be furious if I had a wedding someone else (very likely total strangers) had planned forced on me. I might go along with it there and then, rather than yelling “STOP!” and refusing to take another step, because I wouldn’t want to deal with everyone putting pressure on me to go along with it because can’t I see how much my fiancee loves me and isn’t it so romantic and all that crap, but once the cameras were off and the crowds were gone, I’d rip my fiancee a new one, and it wouldn’t surprise me if I told him I wanted an annulment because I’d felt totally pressured and rushed into something I’d had no say in. If he wanted to marry me, he could do it on a future date we agreed on *together* in a ceremony that we had planned and agreed on *together*.

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Rebecca June 23, 2013 at 10:58 pm

I kind of hope the bride planned a vow renewal a few months later and refused to let the groom have any say in it, not even in what tux he was going to wear!

Also, am I only one who was a little disturbed by the fact they used a Chris Brown song as part of the wedding music? Because nothing says romance like relationship abuse! (/sarcasm)

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