Double Wedding Gifts

by admin on April 2, 2012

 

I am invited to a double wedding.   Do I have to give them both a wedding gift?


How lucky of you to be invited!  Double weddings are not that common.   I was a bridesmaid in one at age 12 and coordinated another one a few years ago for two sisters.   I wrote about the planning and etiquette of that double wedding in this post.

To answer your question,  in a double wedding, there are guests who only know the one or both person of one couple (typically friends and co-workers)  and there are guests who will know at least one person in both couples (typically family).   Most double weddings are two sisters getting married and some guests will know the one sister and her groom and some will know both couples. Guests should give a gift to the couples they know personally.   If you only know the groom or bride of one couple, you give a gift to that couple.   If you know both brides (or grooms), you would give a gift to both couples.

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Diana D April 2, 2012 at 11:15 am

I have been to exactly 1 double wedding in my life, and it happens to be the one that you have used a picture of for your story! LOL, I must have missed your original post on their wedding. Admin, I hope you enjoyed planning their wedding as much as I enjoyed attending it, it was beautiful. All I have to say is, small world :)

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Cat April 2, 2012 at 2:55 pm

Agreed. You would not be expected to buy a couple you did not know a wedding gift. Keep in mind that, if you know both couples, you do not have to buy expensive things you cannot afford nor should you buy a lesser gift than you normally would on the grounds that they are getting two gifts, so to speak, and buying you only one reception dinner.

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Numbers April 2, 2012 at 9:47 pm

I would decide based on the invitation. If it is clear both brides are inviting you then one present for both would be fine. But, what would it be? I hope someone here who has done this will tell what was given. If one bride invites you then a present for her is in order. Also, send the present to the brides address. Don’t take it to the church or reception.

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Enna April 5, 2012 at 9:57 am

If you know both couples then buy for both, if you only now one then buy for one. If they had seperate weddings and you knew both of them you would buy two presents anyway: whereas if you knew just one couple, chances are you would only be invited to theirs if it was single weddings.

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lindsey April 8, 2012 at 11:31 pm

I am trying to plan a double wedding myself. My Fiancee’s sister wanted to get married in April and we did too. They are very close, and we thought it would be a hoot. My question is how are the vows done? Do we say them at the same time, separately…I am confused. Any help?

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admin April 9, 2012 at 6:33 am

Lindsey, the way vows are done in a double wedding is that one couple stands off to the side while the other couple comes forward to say their vows. When they are finished, they retreat off to the side and the other couple comes forward to do their vows. In the photo of the double wedding on the post, the left couple is saying their vows while the right couple is watching.

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