I have a question about pairing ex’s during my wedding processional:
My fiance has a friend (Mariah) that he would like to be his “groomsgirl” and I have a friend (Phil) that I’d like to have as my “bridesman”. Phil and Mariah dated for about three years but they have been broken up for eight years and Phil has been dating someone new (Vicky) for six of them. I’d like to have them walk down the aisle together since our other attendant are walking in boy-girl pairs.
It’s important to note that neither Phil or Mariah will have any problem with this. They have remained very close friends for years and I know they’d have a lot of fun being paired as friends. The issue is Vicky. Vicky is NOT a fan of Mariah’s and has had some big problems with Phil and Mariah being friends (very, very innocent friends). I know Vicky wouldn’t throw some major tantrum at the ceremony but I can see her giving Phil hell about it and sitting there with quite the sour look on her face.
I don’t want to switch them as attendants (ie: make her my bridesmaid and him FH’s groomsman) because, while we are all friends, each of us is closer to our chosen attendant. I have other girlfriends to whom I’m closer who I think would be hurt to see her in my party when I didn’t ask them. Besides, we like the idea and we each want these close friends to be with us.
So, what should I do? Should we just cut them both to spare Vicky’s feelings and any possible problems for Phil? Or should we proceed with our plan and let her just get over it herself? My fiancee is definitely pushing for the latter but I’m really aiming for a drama-free wedding. 0130-12
While your concern is admirable, this is a situation where you need to mind your own business about the issues Phil and Vicky may have with their relationship. If neither Phil nor Mariah has expressed a problem with how the processional is arranged, then you are good to go. What happens between Phil and his girlfriend is between them, especially since your wedding is not the first time Vicky’s jealousy has manifested itself.